Just like some men are plagued with the age old question, "Am I large enough for her???"
Many women secretly ask the opposite question...."Am I small enough for him???"
Thoughts like these can really get in your head and may put a strain on your relationship....There are a number of reasons your pelvic muscles could fade and most are out of your control (result of childbirth, medical treatment, or changes/stress on the body).
But don't stress! There any many ways to help fix this little problem and keep those insecurities at bay...I am sure that you have heard by now about Kegal exersizes for strengthening your vagina....but do you really know how to do them properly? I sure didn't...
I found some great information on about.com
Start by locating your PC muscle.
Many people begin doing kegel exercises but are actually squeezing the wrong muscle. Before you start the exercises, find your PC muscle, make sure you know where your PC muscle is and what it feels like.
Start slow, find your baseline.
The basic exercise can be done anytime and anywhere. Just squeeze your PC muscles as hard as you can, and hold them. This is doing a kegel exercise. Start by squeezing and holding for a count of 3-5 seconds, then release and relax for 5 seconds. When you release, notice how your muscles feel. The first time you do a kegel exercise see how many times you can do it before you feel your muscles getting tired.
Use sets of repetitions
Your kegel exercises will be most efficient and have the most impact if you get into doing sets of repetitions of the squeezing. Once you’ve found your baseline, you can work from there. If you can, start with doing 5 repetitions (squeeze/hold/release). Judge for yourself how long you can hold the squeeze for, but don’t push yourself too much at first.
Building up strength
Once you've found your baseline, do your exercises, and every couple of days increase both the length of time you hold the squeeze for, and the number of exercises per set. As a guideline, try to work up to a point where you can hold the squeeze for ten seconds. And try to work up to doing ten reps of kegel exercises per set. So you squeeze, hold for ten second, release, relax for ten seconds, and repeat ten times.
Do your exercises three or four times a day.
Try to take three or four times in the day to do kegel exercises. Again, everyone is different, but as a guideline try to do ten reps per session, holding for ten seconds on each exercise.
Vary the intensity and time
You can also try to vary the intensity of your squeezing and the amount of time you hold the squeeze in a set. Once you’re comfortable that you're doing the exercises properly try a set where you do rapid squeeze and release. Experiment with how long you can comfortably hold a squeeze. Remember not to push yourself to the point of pain or discomfort.
Using products for resistance kegel exercises.
Some people will use a toy or kegel exercising device to add resistance to kegel exercises. Although this is not necessary, some sex educators suggest it increases the usefulness of the exercise.If you are interested in purchasing a product for kegel exercises, make sure it isn’t too large, as this may get in the way of kegel exercises more than it will help them.
Here is a link to find some great toys/exercisers for use of Kegals:
http://www.moystoys.com/c-765-pelvic-exerciser.aspx
Many women secretly ask the opposite question...."Am I small enough for him???"
Thoughts like these can really get in your head and may put a strain on your relationship....There are a number of reasons your pelvic muscles could fade and most are out of your control (result of childbirth, medical treatment, or changes/stress on the body).
But don't stress! There any many ways to help fix this little problem and keep those insecurities at bay...I am sure that you have heard by now about Kegal exersizes for strengthening your vagina....but do you really know how to do them properly? I sure didn't...
I found some great information on about.com
Start by locating your PC muscle.
Many people begin doing kegel exercises but are actually squeezing the wrong muscle. Before you start the exercises, find your PC muscle, make sure you know where your PC muscle is and what it feels like.
Start slow, find your baseline.
The basic exercise can be done anytime and anywhere. Just squeeze your PC muscles as hard as you can, and hold them. This is doing a kegel exercise. Start by squeezing and holding for a count of 3-5 seconds, then release and relax for 5 seconds. When you release, notice how your muscles feel. The first time you do a kegel exercise see how many times you can do it before you feel your muscles getting tired.
Use sets of repetitions
Your kegel exercises will be most efficient and have the most impact if you get into doing sets of repetitions of the squeezing. Once you’ve found your baseline, you can work from there. If you can, start with doing 5 repetitions (squeeze/hold/release). Judge for yourself how long you can hold the squeeze for, but don’t push yourself too much at first.
Building up strength
Once you've found your baseline, do your exercises, and every couple of days increase both the length of time you hold the squeeze for, and the number of exercises per set. As a guideline, try to work up to a point where you can hold the squeeze for ten seconds. And try to work up to doing ten reps of kegel exercises per set. So you squeeze, hold for ten second, release, relax for ten seconds, and repeat ten times.
Do your exercises three or four times a day.
Try to take three or four times in the day to do kegel exercises. Again, everyone is different, but as a guideline try to do ten reps per session, holding for ten seconds on each exercise.
Vary the intensity and time
You can also try to vary the intensity of your squeezing and the amount of time you hold the squeeze in a set. Once you’re comfortable that you're doing the exercises properly try a set where you do rapid squeeze and release. Experiment with how long you can comfortably hold a squeeze. Remember not to push yourself to the point of pain or discomfort.
Using products for resistance kegel exercises.
Some people will use a toy or kegel exercising device to add resistance to kegel exercises. Although this is not necessary, some sex educators suggest it increases the usefulness of the exercise.If you are interested in purchasing a product for kegel exercises, make sure it isn’t too large, as this may get in the way of kegel exercises more than it will help them.
Here is a link to find some great toys/exercisers for use of Kegals:
http://www.moystoys.com/c-765-pelvic-exerciser.aspx
http://www.moystoys.com/
I myself purchased the Vivid-Gyrosphere
http://www.moystoys.com/p-20033-vivid-gyrosphere-whiteblue.aspx
I found this item was fun and very helpful..the textured shape felt really nice when inserted.
While I do recommend this item for light play with your partner...I do not recommend having Intercourse while this product is fully inserted..(I tried this and had a rather hard time getting them back out!)
For a more of a quick fix to tightening your vagina...there are a number of creams on the market as well.
I myself purchased the Vivid-Gyrosphere
http://www.moystoys.com/p-20033-vivid-gyrosphere-whiteblue.aspx
I found this item was fun and very helpful..the textured shape felt really nice when inserted.
While I do recommend this item for light play with your partner...I do not recommend having Intercourse while this product is fully inserted..(I tried this and had a rather hard time getting them back out!)
For a more of a quick fix to tightening your vagina...there are a number of creams on the market as well.
http://www.moystoys.com/c-416-topical-enhancers.aspx
I have sampled a few and while the tightened effect does not last... they do seem to enhance the moment for both partners..You should expect to feel a light tingling and warm sensation, apply about ten to fifteen minutes before sex and enjoy!
http://www.moystoys.com/p-26553-sure-grip-15oz.aspx
I hope you found this information helpful!
Love ya's, Jordan Night
