"Letting Go"

I Did a bit of research today for you all....just because i care....

I picked up these tips from Dr.Phil (he knows his stuff)..So pay attention both Gals/guys because it really important to understand the way your mind and body can relate to each other...and how its effecting your sex life.

"Research shows that 90 percent of the problems women have in achieving orgasm stem from a psychological nature....and that's good news because it can be overcome!

TIPS FOR THE LADIES

If you can achieve an orgasm alone, but not with a partner, you may have performance anxiety.

Being anxious, worried or feeling pressured to have an orgasm with your partner can work against you. Anxiety is an arousal response — it can cause tension. An orgasm is a relaxation response. Those two are incompatible.

If you're wondering, "Am I doing this right? Is he judging me? Is he having fun? Does he like this?" during intercourse, the anxiety can take you away from your pleasure.

TIPS FOR THE MEN

Fifty to 75 percent of women who have orgasms need clitoral stimulation and are unable to have an orgasm through intercourse alone.

Even for women who do orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone, most still need the right position to provide clitoral stimulation.

Bring the woman very close to an orgasm before you actually engage in intercourse, so she has a better chance to have an orgasm once it begins.

-- Understanding the Female Orgasm, Al Cooper, Ph.D., Sex Therapist, July 2003."

There are also some really great tricks of the trade that seem to work for most women...

*Set the mood (dim the lights, play music, get comfortable)
Studies show music can increase the comfort level between partners.

*Focus on the foreplay..kissing..touching..dirty talk.
(Female bodies are wired differently from men...even though mentally she might want it bad...her body just might not be prepared for it yet.)

*Try a mini vibe on the clit before or during sex, experimenting with toys can be fun!

For a wonderful selection try:
www.moystoys.com


Alright so now that we know a bit of the facts.....

Its really important to be understanding...get to know the way your lovers body works...
Help her to do away with the insecurities...help her to relax and enjoy and just start "letting go"...


Hope this helps for all who may need it!
Jordan Night