"Letting Go"

I Did a bit of research today for you all....just because i care....

I picked up these tips from Dr.Phil (he knows his stuff)..So pay attention both Gals/guys because it really important to understand the way your mind and body can relate to each other...and how its effecting your sex life.

"Research shows that 90 percent of the problems women have in achieving orgasm stem from a psychological nature....and that's good news because it can be overcome!

TIPS FOR THE LADIES

If you can achieve an orgasm alone, but not with a partner, you may have performance anxiety.

Being anxious, worried or feeling pressured to have an orgasm with your partner can work against you. Anxiety is an arousal response — it can cause tension. An orgasm is a relaxation response. Those two are incompatible.

If you're wondering, "Am I doing this right? Is he judging me? Is he having fun? Does he like this?" during intercourse, the anxiety can take you away from your pleasure.

TIPS FOR THE MEN

Fifty to 75 percent of women who have orgasms need clitoral stimulation and are unable to have an orgasm through intercourse alone.

Even for women who do orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone, most still need the right position to provide clitoral stimulation.

Bring the woman very close to an orgasm before you actually engage in intercourse, so she has a better chance to have an orgasm once it begins.

-- Understanding the Female Orgasm, Al Cooper, Ph.D., Sex Therapist, July 2003."

There are also some really great tricks of the trade that seem to work for most women...

*Set the mood (dim the lights, play music, get comfortable)
Studies show music can increase the comfort level between partners.

*Focus on the foreplay..kissing..touching..dirty talk.
(Female bodies are wired differently from men...even though mentally she might want it bad...her body just might not be prepared for it yet.)

*Try a mini vibe on the clit before or during sex, experimenting with toys can be fun!

For a wonderful selection try:
www.moystoys.com


Alright so now that we know a bit of the facts.....

Its really important to be understanding...get to know the way your lovers body works...
Help her to do away with the insecurities...help her to relax and enjoy and just start "letting go"...


Hope this helps for all who may need it!
Jordan Night

Euphoria

Euphoria," in a non-medical sense, means a feeling of great happiness or well-being. When a person is euphoric because of' happy or exciting life events, it is a wonderful state of mind."

Also Known As: exhilaration, elation, joyfulness

Satisfaction," the contentment one feels when one has fulfilled a desire, need, or expectation; comes from fulfilling a desire or need or appetite.

-The taste of a Mexican burrito gives me satisfaction.
-The smell of a dirty shirt worn by a man i enjoy gives me satisfaction.
-The feeling i have after having fucking great sex gives me satisfaction.
-The sound of Norah Jones last album gives me much satisfaction.
-The sight of my dog Manny's happy face at the end of a long day gives me satisfaction.

There are a lot of things that keep me satisfied...and most are not hard to achieve...
But when i get to experience them all in one day (a tickle of ALL the senses) it becomes almost euphoric... (a grinning from ear to ear moment)
Kinda like taking a hit of ecstasy...but without the unpleasant "Etarded" hangover.

I feel like so many of us deny ourselves satisfaction everyday...waiting around for someone else to supply that satisfaction for us....and you don't have to!....if you don't have a man/woman to help out why wait?

-eat something delicious
-smell something wonderful
-buy yourself a big dildo/pocket pussy and use it all day
-listen to your favorite album
-surround yourself with pleasant visuals


Use all of your senses to satisfy...and experience that moment of ultimate satisfaction...
"Euphoria"


For help finding all the treats you many need for a lover or for yourself..
Go to: www.moystoys.com

"Girls will be Girls"

I always found other women to be sexy and a major turn on..as a matter of fact my first few sexual experiences were with my best friends when we were young...very, very, young actually..we used to kiss and rub each other in the "no touch" places...i guess we were just curious...or maybe its a natural instinct or something. Its weird because over the years i have shared stories about these experiences and most girls have had the same or similar stories to tell. I wonder now did boys do this too? or maybe its it just simply... "girls will be girls".

I didn't know much about anything back then, i just knew that it felt good...I am not sure when or where i first heard the word lesbian..but it was probably from one of my older brothers...they taught me about a lot of words that i shouldn't have known about...When i first learned this word i thought to myself "i must be a lesbian." I think i was really upset about it...I remember thinking that being a lesbian was a rare thing, kinda like a one in a million chance or something...and so that i had to be one... because its not normal to be touched by another girl..right?

As i got older i figured it out...and i was wrong...i am not a lesbian..and being gay is not like winning the lottery...

But tell me why then does my curiosity linger? In the real world its probably not common for a woman to randomly press her body against another and tell her that she is beautiful...but in my world it is...and in my world of stilettos and sweat..it happens almost every night...so whats a girl to do?...the offers to have my pussy licked by another girl pour out on a nightly basis almost as much as the customers who pay to say it.

I must say the thought of having a wet tongue on my pussy is enough to make me bend over right then and there and say yes please. But the dilemma always has been if they lick mine...do i have to lick theirs?...and i am sure the reply would be yes..don't get me wrong the thought of pussy turns me on..but the thought of licking pussy has always freaked me out..

I told this to my friend Jess many times...
me and Jess worked together for years..shared dirty stories for years...she would talk to me about the really horny young guy she was fucking and i would tell her about the guy with a cock as thick as a red bull can that i swear i haven't been the same since..and me and Jess would always ultimately come to the same conclusion about lickin a pussy...it freaked us out.

Eventually she changed her mind....she decided that she wanted to try it..and that she wanted it to be mine...She said that i had a very petite little opening..and that it wasn't intimidating.. so one day i finally let her..even though i clearly stated that i wasn't ready to do it back...she said she didn't care.

..and then i felt my best friend Jess's tounge between my legs...

It happened on a work night...at work...on a board room table. It felt different..girls lick pussy like girls would...soft and sweet...yet exactly where you would want it...i felt really bad that i never went down on her that night..although i did finger her...but that night was years ago and fast forwarding to just recently..i found myself in the same compromising position.. with the same dilemma and "to lick or not to lick?" was the question.

I just recently moved into a great rental place... Jess was the first one to come over...it wasn't long before she got me naked and in my tub... we were all bubbled up in more ways then one..and then she finger fucked and licked me again...

This time i chose to do it back...

I licked a pussy! and i am still alive! I have only done it once...it wasn't as scary as i thought it would be though i think that i probably didn't get the full taste because we were already wet..but it has left me intrigued now..last night at work a beautiful girl rubbed the crack of my ass ..and told me i was sexy..she had a twinkle in her eye.... Hmmmm?...

Girls will be girls...right?

Speaking of firsts...

So I have had a lot of first's lately ....Weird for someone who is considered an adult right?...i am 27 but i still think i am a little girl on the inside.

Yesterday i wrote my very first blog ever!.....i have heard quite a bit about bogging from friends but never thought to try it, and i am not sure why?...maybe i thought i didn't have anything important to say or a niche to discuss...but none the less i found it very therapeutic so i think i might really try out this blogging thing out again..

So i got to thinking...what am i gonna write about today?? Since my first bog happened to be about sexual stuff... maybe i will stick with that...maybe sex topics are a good niche for me?...i certainly know enough about it, and i find it an intriguing topic.

So lemme tell you a bit about myself i work as an "entertainer" at a gentlemens club to put it properly.I am in a high sexually charged environment for hours at time being rubbed, touched and talked dirty too...I have learned so much about the way men truly think ....and what really turns them on but they are afraid to ask their lovers to do it out of fear of rejection...it boggles my mind how someone can be married to someone for like 4o yrs and not know that their husband likes his nipples played with...or has a fantasy of ass play? The same goes for men as well ..why are you so afraid to ask your wife to deep throat your cock if that's what you really want? Men tell me all the time..."I cant ask my wife to do that? she is the mother of my kids!"...but i just don't get it...that's more of a reason to ask her...you share blood cant you share a little of your seamen down her throat??...the truth is most women will do anything for their lover if you just ask for it. Deep down most women are just as perverted, sick and twisted as men are...we just want it to feel like your corrupting us...it feels better that way. we love the feeling of saying no but having you take it anyway...at least i do.

Anyway back to first's...so i had a few recently...you know i am talking a lot of crap here yet there is a lot of stuff i never got to try because i was shacked up with a close minded partner for so many years..one thing being ...taking it up the ass!...now i had tried it like once or twice before with my very first boyfriend when i was young but we didn't actually get it to work..and gave up on it....we didn't know to use lube..we didn't guide it in gently..we basically didn't know what we were doing. So my point is ....i took it up the ass...for the first time...for real...where it was all the way inside me.. DEEP... and i liked it...

its kinda scary to think about having a cock deep in your ass but its really only uncomfortable when its first sliding in...then once its inside and there is a good rhythm goin it feels great. I was really surprised to have enjoyed it so much actually...and lately i have found my self thinking about it constantly...i just want his cock in my ass. Crazy right...i had been missing out on something i clearly seem to enjoy all because i was never asked to do it....

So who ever may have found this blog and actually read my lil story...do your self a favor and don't be afraid to ask her/him to try what ever it is that you desire. And if they ask you to do something new be open minded about it because you just might find that you have secretly been craving it all along....

Oh and if it happens to be ass play like me...please use lube.
if you want her to let you do it more then once put a lot of it on there!

here are some good ones from my favorite website.
www.moystoys.com
( i like em cause they are local and they ship really fast)



Analyse Me! Spray 20ml
BRAND: Pjur Group U.s.a.
SKU: ZEROS22020
Price: $25.00
-Helps to lightly desensitize and increase your anal pleasure.20ml /.68oz



Naughty Nympho Oil
BRAND: Topco Sales
SKU: TS1031207
Price: $8.50
-I really bought this one cause i liked the name..but it works great.

Finding discreet pleasure ....

I remember the very first vibrator i purchased.....It was a simple glow in the dark vibe i picked up at Spencers gifts for about $9.99. I was so embarressed bringing it up to the counter...it said muscle massager on the box, but both me and the boy at the counter knew exactly what i was gonna use it for.....for pleasure...the good kind...i was only about 17 years old and had no way of getting my hands on any other ways of sexual relief..i remember thinking where am i gonna hide this??? This was obviously designed for a vagina..not for back pain!...with its long slender shape and its hard pulsating tip that was made just for my clit...it was the best purchase i ever made. I would use it over and over and in my frustration would have to search frantically for fresh batteries when mine went dead again..sometimes i would steal them from the tv remote, other times from my old school clear cordless phone..yeah...mmmm...mmm..those were the days...i sure loved that thing...i loved the way it would heat up when i had been using it for to long and it would feel like a real cock inside me...I really couldn't even begin tell you how much happiness it gave me.

These days i don't have to go searching for batteries...or hide a vibrator in a old sock drawer hoping that it wont be found by a sibling...and its not just because i am an adult now and have my own place...but because modern technology has solved all of those problems. Now on the market we get to have the most discreet and mind blowing toy designs ever!..there are vibes that plug into the wall and never ever go dead/ loose pulsating strength...they have vibes shaped like everyday objects like a cell phone... even as discreet its as a lipstick ....I am truly surprised that i ever manage to get anything done with all of this opportunity for orgasm.

I like to try the different kinds available...some times i find that just switching to a different design every now and then can really make a difference and make you cum even harder...so don't just settle on one toy...try the different options and see which ones fit best for you and try to rotate between them often. I have a few new favorite pics that you can find here:

www.moystoys.com



Climax Rabbit - Pink Princes
BRAND: Topco Sales
SKU: TS1075257
Price: $36.00
-This one is great for a full on i just got fucked feeling...the head vibes and rotates,
so it really reaches every corner of your pussy...


Marble W/p Bullet 7x - Granite Pink
BRAND: Topco Sales
SKU: TS1072967
Price: $23.00
-This one i like for use with a partner...i can turn it on and fuck my man while having it on my clit..and if you position it properly between your body's its hands free and feels great for both.

Rock Chick - Purple
BRAND: Rocks Off Ltd Usa
SKU: ROC0022
Price: $69.98
-this tool is amazing...its a bit expensive but has really great power...and its a really interesting design also..it reaches you g-spot and clit both at the same time and can also be hands free..
i like that its water proof so i can bring it into my hot tub with me.

I hope you enjoy my selection!
Please let me know of any great toys you think i need to try!
~Jordan Night